(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My girlfriend has been dealing with rather bad depression for several months. Medication and working closely with a therapist are helping some. She is leaning heavily on three people: her mother, her best friend since college, and me. This means constant communication between the three of us, texts and emails. Mostly it is just the three of us checking in and sharing reports of how my girlfriend is doing, but 90 percent of the time it results in action items for me, since I live with her. I am beginning to really resent this. I feel like I am answering to two bosses, and sometimes being accused of not doing enough for a person I really care about. But I am not sure how to handle it. I am not capable of being her entire support system. Even if I were, she has been crystal clear that she wants all three of us in her daily life. And honestly, the two of them know sides of her I do not, and probably catch things I do not. Is there a way to distance myself from the "caregiver committee" that doesn't read as turning my back on my girlfriend's depression? — Caregiver Committee |
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