 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Hi Carolyn! So my boyfriend and I have a wonderful, supportive relationship and I love him with my entire heart, but there's one thing that drives me absolutely insane. I grew up in an abusive home, battling all sorts of different forms of abuse for my entire life. He has a wonderful mom who, although not perfect, is very close to it. He has a great relationship with her and had a wonderful upbringing. When he was an infant, long story short, she got in a bit of legal trouble (which wasn't her fault) and had to go away for about 10 weeks, while he stayed with some wealthy, loving and close friends. She sent him to therapy his whole life to make sure those 10 weeks she was gone didn't do any long-term harm. Whenever I mention any of the trauma I went through, he will cut me off and start a sorrowful talk about his trauma. The mean part of me questions whether he even has any trauma from that, and it really frustrates me to equate a mom being gone for 10 weeks when he was an infant to 18 years of substantial emotional, physical and psychological abuse. I want to scream at how lucky he is! But I also know everyone experiences everything differently and I don't want to invalidate him. There's only so much I can take, though. How do I approach this? Am I wrong? — Frustrated With Trauma Olympics | 
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