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» Carolyn Hax: ‘Progressive’ fiancee is on a collision course with his reactionary parents
| His parents have strong opinions about what women should and should not do. He's worried about their relationship with his progressive future wife. |
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| | | |  |  | | Advice to help you tackle life's problems. | | | | | |  (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared Aug. 12, 2007. Dear Carolyn: As my wedding approaches, I'm worried about the future relationship between my wife and her in-laws. She's wonderfully open-minded and much more progressive than they are. While they still believe that women should work only as teachers or nurses, she came from a family where the woman is the breadwinner. They have already mentioned how they want her to quit her job when we have children. She calmly responds that the decision will be made by her and me, but I know she's reeling inside. These aren't minor disagreements; they are life choices, and I know it's going to lead to big problems in the future. She'll play their game to a point. For example, after getting berated by my mother for helping me carry bulk groceries ("because that's a man's job"), she has never lifted more than what goes on the dinner table. I've spoken with them about how it is disrespectful and devaluing to both of us, but I don't know what else I can do. — Groom-to-Be | | | Want more?Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | | | | | | | | | |
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